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Dating or Courtship is a way of life for people and specially adolescents. Getting a Good date is important and their are a few rules that have to be followed.
Here's everything you need to know to make a great first impression and improve your chances of landing a Good Date.
Last Updated -1st October 2005
Make a Backup Plan
The weather can change quickly, restaurants can close for renovations, and your tickets can turn out to be counterfeit. Have a backup plan in mind in case your date takes an unexpected turn.
Plan a Short Date
No need to map out the rest of your lives together. Start with a simple, 1-2 hour date. If things go well, you can always extend the date. However, there's nothing worse than being on an all-day tour when you realized five minutes into the date that you have no future together.
There's no greater sign of disrespect than being late for your first date. Get directions to your location, arrive early, and show your date that you care about him or her and the plans you made.
Agree on the Dress Code
When planning the date, talk about the dress code for the particular event. It can be embarrassing if one person shows up in a suit while the other wears jeans and a sweatshirt.
Compliment, But Don't Over Do It
A few nice words makes everyone feel special, but persistent comments about the other person's looks, personality, body, etc., gets old and can seem desperate.
A few drinks may take the pressure off the date, but don't pretend you're at a fraternity party. Drinking too much will likely bring out some bad sides to your personality and that can't help your chances.
Balance Talking and Listening
Pay attention to the amount of time you spend talking versus listening. If the scale is weighing in either direction, look to balance it out.
What to wear on a first date?
Show your romantic side
Head-to-toe ruffles aren't necessary; a hint of femininity is. Pair soft tops with structured pants or skirts; long, flowing skirts with a simple top. Pink is the ultimate romantic color (and it just happens to look great on everyone).
Skip the sleaze
Dressing like Lil' Kim on the first date may get his attention, but it won't hold his affection for long. Instead try peekaboo styles that do keep something to the imagination: crocheted sweaters, sheer tops over a tank, slit skirts.
No need to hold your breath in tight jeans: opt for something with a bit of stretch if figure-hugging styles are your thing. And stilettos may look sexy, but your dogs will be barking in minutes if you go with too-high heels. Try leg-lengthening wedges instead or a sandal that laces at the ankle for added foot appeal.
Reveal the real you
Whether it's your lucky charm bracelet or a groovy pin, let the real you shine through with well-thought-out pieces or accessories.
Simple ways to reveal bits of your personality:
- Wear your favorite color; hues tell a lot about the wearer.
- Don a sentimental piece of jewelry (your grandmother's necklace; your friendship ring from junior high).
- Dress in a familiar style (only a bit better). If downtown diva is your thing, don't show up in Laura Ashley just to win his heart.
- Pass on status pieces
- Save your impressive designer labels for girls' night out. Remember that if you show up looking like too much of a fashion plate, he may be intimidated by your shopping prowess (and start wondering just how much money he'd be out in a long-term relationship with you).
Things that you must not to do on a first date .
- DON'T wear something you don't feel drop dead gorgeous in.
Wear something normal and comfortable for you, and you should feel fine wearing that.
- DON'T wear colored contacts on a first date.
What if you know the most beautiful blue eyes, and then you realize that they were false? Not a good idea, just show what you are.
- DON'T mention your last boyfriend/girlfriend six hundred times.
For that matter, don't mention anyone else of the opposite sex if you can help it. I remember one of my worst dates with a guy who had managed to talk about four different women he implied were interested in him at the time. Needless to say, that was the last date he had with me. It just comes off as insecurity. If the other person is on the date with you, chances are they find some value in you. You don't need to point out the fact that you are, in fact, desired by all.
- DON'T talk about yourself too much.
It's true that one of the best ways you can get some one to pay rapt attention to you is to ask them lots of questions about themselves. It's amazing how well this works. Yet when you're nervous, you might have a tendency to babble on about your life endlessly, as you don't have to think that much to pull that information out of your head.
- DON'T talk wistfully about how many children you'd like to have...
It is is important to find out if a possible relationship candidate shares your goals, but save it for a few dates down the line, after you've decided that you might actually have the potential to get along with this new person. Just concentrate on having fun for now.
- If it's a blind date, DON'T compare yourself to anyone famous, looks-wise.
Most of us all have someone famous we're compared to. Those comparisons are obviously wrong. Most people look like a more slightly skewed version of these famous stars. So proceed with caution. Unless, of course, you are drop dead gorgeous, then you can say the famous ones look like you.
- DON'T check out other people!
Nothing is more that a turnoff than to be out on a date with someone and notice him checking out the girl with the cleavage right in front of your face! It might not happen often, and it's usually another sign of insecurity.
- DON'T drink too much!
No-one likes to see you get that drunk before they even get to know you. If the date sucks, then drink when you get home!
- DON'T assume that he/she will automatically grab for the check.
No matter who invites whom, it's always a nice gesture to offer to pay for half the check even if you didn't do the asking.
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